• Sometimes it may feel like things between you and your prodigal are hopeless. So many worries have emerged. So many angry words have been spoken. Noth...
    Three Steps to a Better Relati...
    By Carol Barnier
    June 26th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Joe and Amelia spent three years just reacting. Their daughter, Lauren, had not only left the faith she’d been raised with, but journeyed carelessly...
    Do Not Be Defined by Your Chil...
    By Carol Barnier
    November 12th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • If you had seen me during my prodigal years, you might have thought of words or phrases like wild, lost, bad choices, and hard on her parents. A numbe...
    Your Prodigal Child Could Be C...
    By Carol Barnier
    July 10th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Okay, you’ve had to accept a very hard truth. Your child is not following Christ. He’s stepping away from the faith you thought he had embraced.He...
    Letting Go of Behavior Modific...
    By Carol Barnier
    November 19th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Do you know any people who have led a life of unrighteous living and yet have gray hair? Do you know anyone who is financially well-off and yet is la...
    Does God Really Promise THAT?
    By Carol Barnier
    July 24th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  •  Waiting.  And waiting. As parents, we typically are people of action. And yet sometimes we’re called to wait. When we have a child who has le...
    Waiting
    By Carol Barnier
    December 03rd, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Get ready. I’m going to tell you something jolting. It goes against much of what you’ve been taught about parenting. If you’re one of those who...
    Perfect Parenting Makes for Pe...
    By Carol Barnier
    November 05th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • I spend so much time talking about the power of free will and your child’s ability to make really bad decisions in spite of basically good parenting...
    What If This Really Is My Faul...
    By Carol Barnier
    August 14th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • There were many things I expected when I left the faith. I expected people would disapprove. I expected they would be uncomfortable with some of my qu...
    The Big Surprise
    By Carol Barnier
    December 10th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • As if things weren’t bad enough.As if you weren’t already in so much pain because this child, whom you love more than life itself, is angry, bitte...
    The Rebuke of a Brother
    By Carol Barnier
    December 17th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Your boss walks in to the office. He plops his briefcase, coffee and bagel on his desk, and soon he heads over to chat about a project your team is wo...
    How Many Times Do I Have to Sa...
    By Carol Barnier
    January 07th, 2016

    Parents of Prodigals
  • What does your prodigal have left to give back to God? • A mind seeing the world through a drunken lens? • A drug-marked body? • A couple of...
    The Ugly Gift
    By Carol Barnier
    December 24th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • My son is an EMT/volunteer firefighter in our area. This is a young man who runs into burning buildings, not away from them as common sense would dict...
    Don't Turn On Your Flashers
    By Carol Barnier
    January 14th, 2016

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Here are seven ways you can encourage your kids’ belief that Christianity is full of hypocrites: 1. Give every indication that sexual sins produced...
    When Hypocrisy Comes Home to R...
    By Carol Barnier
    January 21st, 2016

    Parents of Prodigals
  • The little boy stood at the edge of the small crowd that had gathered at the beach. He held onto his daddy’s hand, but his mind was completely on th...
    How Far Will They Go?
    By Carol Barnier
    October 09th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • I felt caged. I sat on the pew for probably the 11,000th time in my life. I was raised in the church; my father was a pastor. But as I listened to ...
    The Cage in the Pew
    By Carol Barnier
    October 16th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • There is a common belief that prodigals step away from their faith simply because they want to taste a bit of life on the wild side. The world has cal...
    Thank Goodness She's Only Wild!...
    By Carol Barnier
    October 23rd, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Dear Lord, please bring a solid upstanding Christian into the path of my wayward child. Let him meet up with someone who will show him the way, the tr...
    Be Careful What You Pray For
    By Carol Barnier
    October 30th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • A man calls his mother. “Mom, how’ve you been?”“Not so good,” says the mother. “I’ve been very weak.”The son says, “Why are you so w...
    I’m Think I’m the Holy Spi...
    By Carol Barnier
    November 06th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Do you have something you’d like to say to your prodigal? Is there something that’s been on your mind for some time, rolling around, waitin...
    Is a Letter Better?
    By Carol Barnier
    November 13th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • We have this amazing power when our children are young.We speak it.They do it. It seems natural. It seems the proper order. It seems almost magical....
    How Much Power Do You Have?
    By Carol Barnier
    November 20th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Joan opened up her pocket calendar to record an upcoming event when she suddenly pressed her hand hard over her mouth to hold back an unanticipated cr...
    She Doesn’t Want Me in Her L...
    By Carol Barnier
    November 27th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • I talked last week about what to do with a child who is living a life that he or she knows we’d disapprove of. I’ll continue the discussion here.L...
    She Doesn’t Want Me in Her L...
    By Carol Barnier
    December 04th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Let’s imagine I’ve put together a marvelous backyard birthday party for my kids and their friends. I’ve really outdone myself this time. I hired...
    Maybe You Don’t See That Com...
    By Carol Barnier
    December 11th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • I mentioned last week that sometimes when my kids have disobeyed, my response has not always been what you’d call godly. Which eventually prompted m...
    Maybe You Don’t See That Com...
    By Carol Barnier
    December 25th, 2014

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Years ago, I was driving the main road to a nearby town as I’d done hundreds of times before. I live in a state that is mostly wooded, so practicall...
    Passing by the Anthrax House
    By Carol Barnier
    January 01st, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • I’d reduced my mother to tears again.There we were, screaming at each other, each of us trying to make the other one “get it.” I was 17 and step...
    How Can She Hurt Me Like This?
    By Carol Barnier
    January 08th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • As to it being personal between my mom and me, it wasn’t, at least not as personal as my poor mom certainly believed. I was in the midst of a very s...
    How Can She Hurt Me Like This?...
    By Carol Barnier
    January 15th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • You run into an old friend at church you haven’t seen in quite some time. You do a bit of catch-up, the chit chat goes on for awhile, and then, he...
    Please Don’t Ask About My K...
    By Carol Barnier
    January 22nd, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Let me finish my thoughts on how others can inquire about your prodigal children. I mentioned Plan A and Plan B in last week’s blog. For now, let me...
    Please Don’t Ask About My Ki...
    By Carol Barnier
    January 29th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • After many long years as an atheist, I finally reached a point where I was willing, just ever-so-slightly, to consider another worldview. After some...
    Watch Those Expectations
    By Carol Barnier
    February 05th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Let’s say an angel comes to visit you tonight. After you’ve picked yourself up from off the floor (remember—real angels typically result in the...
    The Swoon of Sexual Sin
    By Carol Barnier
    February 12th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • In my last blog, I was talking about the sexual sins of our prodigal children.I’m not saying sexual sins should now be winked at. They are sins. But...
    The Swoon of Sexual Sin, Part ...
    By Carol Barnier
    February 26th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • If you live anywhere but the Northeast, the freakishly winter snow storm that dropped another 18 inches of snow in my backyard recently was probably...
    The Very, Very Long Week
    By Carol Barnier
    March 05th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Our delightful time of pregnancy and journey toward the birth of our first child had come to a screeching halt. Our son had been born with a medical p...
    The Blame Game
    By Carol Barnier
    March 12th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals
  • Bob and Jamie had spent years putting out fires caused by Tory, their drug-addicted daughter. They had once reported a robbery only to discover it h...
    Don’t Disappear into the Ho...
    By Carol Barnier
    March 19th, 2015

    Parents of Prodigals